Loving boundaries: Conditional love applied to parenting and therapy

I used to think that you could love someone unconditionally or conditionally, and I never really thought that you could do both at the same time, but it just occurred to me today that this is indeed not only possible but advisable! Unconditional love needs no introduction: it’s welcoming someone as they are, fully and deeply. A common attitude is that this is the love of parents for their babies and that’s very much as far as we can find it, but it is perfectly possible to love anyone unconditionally. It is…

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Dynomight on the rise of colorectal (and other types of) cancer in young people Writing is thinking: a case against using AI for writing Can you (if you are a worm, that is) acquire memories by eating them? On how patterns emerge out of the entropic damage of aging (the topic of my from chaos, order post) On choosing a meditation path and Carmen Lau's experiences along the Path I ask Twitter: what's the best writing on AI consciousness, ideally from people that meditate? I made a Nagarjuna meme, an Avaloki…

There was only mom

One morning I got a call from my younger brother Jaime. He was crying. He tells me my mom’s health, which had been slowly declining over the past month from advanced cancer, had reached the point where not much time was left. I was shocked. I felt the inertia of my regular life: not wanting to let people at work down, the meditation retreat I had booked for next week. I cried in the shower. I cried on the way to work as I listened to these Zen chants. Everything just seemed to hit harder. The strikes of the…

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Monoclonal antibodies against Abeta continue to have lackluster performance (I have a standing bet that this will continue) Rapamycin tested in a human clinical trial over 13 weeks on various strength endpoints, didn't work On Writing AI Constitutions Meditation-induced timelessness Why are young people having more colorectal cancer? Deep jhana

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The use of the Forced Perspective Technique in Lord of the Rings To my surprise, OpenAI seemingly didn't get their money back for GPT5's training if one includes the costs of running the org. I have this longstanding (but not deeply examined yet) intuition that even though very useful, LLM labs might end up becoming like airlines even when they develop super intelligence: low market cap, low profit commodities. Anthropic as an untrustworthy organization, with some spicy discussion on LessWrong. My own take…